Can't stop cutting myself

[Harry Hirsute]

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Source: https://www.parenting.org/cuttingself...lp/hotline.asp
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[pinballdoctor]

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\r\nAnytime you have a cut, bacteria can enter the wound. This could be MRSA or STAPH or some other mutant bug. Once inside the body it will multiply and cause a severe infection. The doctor will give you antibiotics, but they won\'t work against these super bugs. The infection will cause gangrene, and you can see where this is going, so its best to not cut yourself, at least not on purpose.
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[saved1986]

\r\n \r\n Cutting yourself, urinating crooked?????? You are obviously a troll and a lousy one at that. Here is a troll board you might like: www.trollvalhalla.com\r\n

[just me]

\r\n \r\n saved1986, Contrary to what you might believe, spidey isnt a troll... He came to our board as a teenager with lots of questions, lots of problems, and a need to have someone listen to him. If you will look at his join date, you will see that he has been on this board almost four years now...Spidey should be in college this year, but its been a while since we have heard from him....If folks would look at the dates on the first post in a thread, folks can see when the thread was actually started....The peeing crooked one was at least a year ago, if not longer... that actually might have been one of his first postings, but I dont remember...There are a couple of folks on this board who believe Spidey is a pain (sorry spidey, but old foggies think that way) then there are some of us who believe that spidey just needs an adult to be friends with.... He reminds me of alot of teenagers that I use to teach in youth class...so many questions, and no adult willing to answer.....I hope this board never gets tired of Spidey...He needs us, and in some ways, we need him... He is a character, but he reminds us, that the youth in this world need to find alternative health also..
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\nI really hope Spidey isnt cutting himself, Im hoping and believing maybe he is posting for a friend of his, who is too embarrassed to ask for help, but which ever way the truth runs, who ever is the cutter, needs help...and us calling them names, wont get them help. Again spidey, I told you in one of my post to you... who ever is cutting, needs to find an adult to help... this is not a good situation....dont blow off adult help...find someone please!!!!\r\n

[jfh]

\r\n \r\n Spidey, just me reminded me that you should be in college or should be starting this year. How\'s that going?\r\n

[spideyfanman]

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Spidey, just me reminded me that you should be in college or should be starting this year. How\'s that going?

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I start college next year, I graduate this June. already got accepted to one school\r\n

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I start college next year, I graduate this June. already got accepted to one school

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Hurray for Spidey! No kidding. That\'s the very best thing you can do for yourself right now that will have a lasting effect for the rest of your life. There will be no regrets. I\'m proud of you.
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\nNow, about that cutting. Just behave. Imagine what your future girlfriend may think of that. It may freak her out. It already hurts me to hear of it. You don\'t want to have to hide those kind of scars for the rest of your life. It is not like you can just say that they are battle wounds. And think of the scars you will have on your own psychology. I at least know what those kind of scars are like. They don\'t ever seem to go away.
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\nIt\'s not like me to step in between an ordeal such as this; but try to forgive saved1986. There was, what I believe, a sincere apology. A virtual family does not really know each other very well after all. And you have been away for a while; only to return with a rather complicated question. Psychology always is complicated.
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\nAt least let us know what college you are attending when you decide.\r\n

[saved1986]

\r\n \r\n Spidey, my apologies if you are serious in your questions.\r\n

[Spirit Raintree]

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\nThis little forum string really helped me out.
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\nI had read a small handful of Spidey\'s posts and my supposedly open mind went right to where Saved\'s did. Troll. Then I read that awesome post by just me. I felt silly, then I felt grateful. Thank you, just me, for providing me an opportunity to realize I still have issues to work through. I mean that with utmost sincerity, although that\'s not always easy to convey on a forum.
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\nThen, to make it even better, I read saved\'s extremely cool and humble reply and was genuinely impressed once again. My feelings about this forum are already high. This peculiar string has raised my own consciousness and my feelings regarding this forum to a new level. Again, I offer my sincerest gratitude to all parties involved. Thanks.
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\nSpidey, my suggestion would be to find a positive and constructive outlet for the emotion you feel that drives you to cut yourself. For myself, I really enjoy punching a heavy bag. It gives me an opportunity to express anger, frustration, and other emotions that may otherwise be expressed very destructively.
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\nYou might also want to try listening to music that allows you to express the emotion. I like Marilyn Manson, Dio, Tool, and Nine Inch Nails for those times I\'m not listening to Mozart or Brahms. While listening to it, I would suggest moving your body in such a way that feels good without hurting yourself or others. Call it dancing, or whatever, but the main point is to move your body. It could help you to feel better.
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\nOther ideas could be to write or create art. Both can be effective methods for self-expression.
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\nRegardless, I hope you find peaceful resolution. Have a good one.\r\n

[spideyfanman]

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\r\n Originally Posted by saved1986\r\n \r\n

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Spidey, my apologies if you are serious in your questions.

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Saved, I do not appreciate what you are calling me. A "troll" it might just be a word but it can really hurt sometimes. I cannot believe someone would say something like this about me. Is it too much to ask questions? Everyone takes their anger out in different ways and I do it by having small cuts on my hand/arm. It allows me to take some of that frustration out and in the only way I know how to.\r\n

[Arrowwind09]

\r\n \r\n Spidy, I think people cut themselves because they are not feeling life and free flow of emotions as they should. They cut so they can feel. With your family history this may be anticipated.
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\nI remember you had plans to attend college and do computer studies. I hope you have found a way to this place you dreamed of. Attending college can be very isolating. And even if things were not so hot at home away at school even the negative relationships can be missed. At least they keep one involved in FEELING, even if it is negative feeling.
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\nIf you are on your own now or at school I strongly recommend shared housing with others near your age. Get to know other people and let them get to know you.
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\nDevelop a hobbie or activity that you could feel passionate about... something that helps you to feel others emotions. Developing compassion for others is very beneficial to help you to understand your own feelings. It could be as simple as working at a soup kitchen once a week or at a charitable food distribution organization, or any goup that does service for others.
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\nI agree that physical activity can help you to work out some things. I would not recommend negative types of music like marilyn manson though as the thought forms projected by such people have an extreme negative impact. Those who follow such people do not heal themselves but fall further into the abyss.
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\nYou could try running. It generates hormones that stimulate the mind and the postitive mood receptors.
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\nActivities like martial arts can go a long way to develop inner strength, trust and friendships. You don\'t have to be great physically to attempt it. These teachers are skilled in helping you to meet your potential from what ever place you are starting from. Even I did it in my early 20\'s, being the biggests klutz you could know when it came to coordination and strength, I walked out of the dojo with some pretty extreme bruises and really had to confront some of my fears about my power and lack of it. It is the perfect activity to develop self esteme\r\n

[just me]

\r\n \r\n Spidey, You need to learn some forgiveness, please.... saved was apologizing for making a rash judgement. There are quite a few folks on this board, who are members or have been members of lots and lots of forums.... The word troll in the forum world means nothing more then a person coming into a forum and disrupting on purpose.... At the point of time saved wrote his first message to you, it was because all of a sudden, there were two posting by you, both with what would be considered unusual problems..... in his defense... most trolls do that... He made a mistake, and he apologized to you and also to me for his mistake.... I know it hurt your feelings, but it wasnt meant to hurt you, it was meant to protect the forum...Since everyone now knows you arent a threat to the forum, that you are our resident teen/young adult person, hopefully there should be no more problems in that area....But kiddo, please be the respectful man that I keep hoping you are, and accept his apology and come out as friends... If you read some of saved postings, you will find some great information . These old folks on this forum have alot of wisdom to share with you, and they have given you some great advice... I hope you are wise enough to accept what they are offering you!!! thank you for being nice, and thank you for trying to understand the mishap....
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\nWhat school have you been accepted to? That will be an exciting time for you!\r\n

[spideyfanman]

\r\n \r\n I\'m going to try and stop cutting myself. I don\'t do it often as I used to. However, I\'d like to stop altogether. It\'s very difficult since it is like an addiction. Stopping will take a tough battle against temptation. I am willing to start this battle and win it, too. As far as school, right now I was accepted to SUNY Potsdam. It\'s not the greatest, and actually it is my back-up but that\'s good because I won\'t have to worry about not getting in somewhere. I have to wait to hear from more colleges.
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\n@ saved1986 no worries man, I forgive you pal! I just wanted to make sure everyone knew that I was serious\r\n

[jfh]

\r\n \r\n It doesn\'t matter too much what you think of the college\'s reputation in the long run. It is whatever you make of it and how you apply yourself to the challenge. It will open doors in your career and in your mind. Who knows. Someday you may be teaching there, in your effort to make the college better.
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\nIt may sound stupid an weird; but I\'ve found that if you write yourself a short message you can overcome an addiction. Just write "Please Stop"; and sign it by the name you call yourself. Sign it "with love, -' + '-' + '-' + '-". Then put the letter in a drawer that you open regularly. I put mine near or on the instruments of my destructive behavior. Try it. It worked for me in the early 70s, when I was trying to overcome the ravages of the 60s. I have a retired psychologist as a best buddy. He says that such a letter is common; and that it becomes a contract. He also says to not ignore the vitamin B complex. It may only be a vitamin; but its deficiency symptoms are real and may be too subtle to recognize. Most psychs recommend its use.\r\n

[vinwe]

\r\n \r\n I have been a on and off cutter since I was 12 I am now 28. I haven\'t done it for a long time now. Cutting yourself is not a rational thing to do.. but not everything we do is rational.. and sometimes irrational things can help us heal.
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\nI believe cutting can be theraputic.. it may be extreme but IF its an alternative to suicide then I congratulate you on surviving through the pain! But there is nicer alternatives that you could also try, here are some...
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\n1) write down your emotions in a diary in pictures of words
\n2) get a tattoo or piercing
\n3) have acupuncture
\n4) touch yourself
\n5) get a massage
\n6) fantasise about someone or something you like
\n7) read a book
\n8) moisturise
\n9) Do a magical ritual to change your life
\n10) imagine your life as someone else, in a paralel universe or in different body, class, gender, species etc etc..
\n11) imagine your life without any pressures or problems and what you would do.
\n12) masterbate
\n13) Do some exercise
\n14) sleep
\n15) have sex
\n17) get on a bus somewhere beautiful
\n18) go for a walk
\n19) commit a crime (slightly dangerous)
\n20) have a drink or take drugs (warning: also a bit dangerous and possibly addictive but not more than what your doing now)
\n21) talk to someone
\n22) become a person that you admire... or try. think about it.
\n23) take the day off
\n24) volunteer in a homeless shelter
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\nthere are many more.. but these will do for now, everytime you feel so bad you want to kill yourself and harm your self try one of the above things instead..
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I\'m going to try and stop cutting myself. I don\'t do it often as I used to. However, I\'d like to stop altogether. It\'s very difficult since it is like an addiction. Stopping will take a tough battle against temptation. I am willing to start this battle and win it, too. As far as school, right now I was accepted to SUNY Potsdam. It\'s not the greatest, and actually it is my back-up but that\'s good because I won\'t have to worry about not getting in somewhere. I have to wait to hear from more colleges.
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\n@ saved1986 no worries man, I forgive you pal! I just wanted to make sure everyone knew that I was serious

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Hi Spideyfanman! I\'m glad you\'re ready to put a stop to this self injuring behavior. I know you have the strength to stop, and will succeed!
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\nI think Jim\'s idea about the note is very good, the B-complex supplement also. I feel like with any addiction, getting past the immediate urge is key. If you\'re having the thought of doing it, distract yourself in any way necessary, until the urge passes. Go out and take a walk, go online and surf the web, something light-hearted or funny, maybe some space or nature photos, something POSITIVE for sure!
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\nI commend you for being forgiving. It\'s something that is of great emotional benefit for the forgiver. You must admit though, that suddenly seeing your last two threads, especially to a new forum member, would naturally make them suspicious. I like those who watch out to maintain the quality of this forum, maybe next time they could just contact the administration, and ask about the legitimacy of the poster involved.
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\nGood luck at college, I hope you find some good friends and real happiness there! Here\'s an article that may deserve a quick read:
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I\'m going to try and stop cutting myself. I don\'t do it often as I used to. However, I\'d like to stop altogether. It\'s very difficult since it is like an addiction. Stopping will take a tough battle against temptation. I am willing to start this battle and win it, too. As far as school, right now I was accepted to SUNY Potsdam. It\'s not the greatest, and actually it is my back-up but that\'s good because I won\'t have to worry about not getting in somewhere. I have to wait to hear from more colleges.
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\n@ saved1986 no worries man, I forgive you pal! I just wanted to make sure everyone knew that I was serious

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\nSpidey, a word of advice from someone older: Make sure you take a foreign language in college, preferably spanish or chinese. The US is diving quick and knowing one of those languages will be of great advantage to you, no matter what your major is.\r\n

[spideyfanman]

How can I stop cutting myself? I am addicted to it and I think it feels wonderful. What should I do in order to make myself not like it?