Anxiety and the Bathroom

lulufuj13

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I am a college student who suffers from frequent trips to the loo. I feel the urge to pee many times during the day; I've noticed that I feel more urges when I'm outside my dorm than when I'm in it (maybe because it's the 'homey' feeling the place has and the fact that I'm just down the hall from a toilet). (It's also not an infection as I've had numerous tests done and nothing is wrong with my kidneys either.) None of my friends ever have to pee when we're hanging out around town, but I always do. I feel like such a burden to them, especially since we always have to drive to find bathrooms.

My doctor suggested retraining my bladder and although this does give me a better sense of security, I still find that I revert back to getting anxious when I'm out with my friends and not around a loo.

And now, I also get frequent upset stomachs (stomach pain, gas, bloating, loose stools). I've been tested for celiacs disease and numerous others, but nothing is out of the ordinary. It's not a food allergy either as I've kept track of what I've been eating and have only found random triggers. I think this too is related to me being anxious if I'm not near a bathroom or not able to get to one (such as being in a class where the teacher won't let me go or the fear of other students thinking I'm weird for having to always come and go from the class.)

I don't want to eat or drink anything before I go out so I can reduce my chances of having to go to the bathroom. I'm already extremely skinny and because I don't want to eat or drink much I lose weight. These problems are making my life a living hell. I don't know any other college student who suffers from these problems; I seem to be the only person in the world who has to deal with this. I don't even want to go out with my friends anymore, let alone make any new ones (it's also hard for me to make friends since I'm so shy so I'm alone most of the time) for fear of them finding me weird or a burden.

I've spent months crying over this, I just can't seem to shake this problems since they always come back when things are finally going good. I feel like everyone else would just be better off without me. I've become extremely sad and I feel like a lost cause.

How can I cope with this? What can I do if I'm stuck in the car for a long period of time such as being stuck in traffic? I live near a beach that doesn't have a bathroom and my friends always want to go there but I avoid it and I hate having to do that. What can I do?
 

BigAl

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Here's a trick you can try that I understand sometimes works. Just go to the bathroom when you don't have to.
 

skoll1975

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Jan 8, 2016
Hello. Have you correct the problem? I have the same problem. Sorry for bad english.

Luis
Portugal
 

Firekin4

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Oct 10, 2015
I have similar problems with urinary frequency and being overly skinny. I go at least once an hour, whereas more than 8 times a day is considered a lot by most people. I hated school for it; many teachers limited bathroom breaks to as few as 4 per semester, thank Jesus I was usually teacher's pet, and I needed a note during standardized testing so I could go more often than the breaks every 4 hours. You may just have a small or overactive bladder like me. It's a pain in the ass (or technically the urethra) but can be remedied through pelvic exercises and various herbs. Otherwise just go when you gotta, go when you don't just in case, and don't worry about what your peers think. If they're bothered by something so trivial, they aren't worth associating with.
 

jfh

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I have similar problems with urinary frequency and being overly skinny.
I don't know what overly skinny has to do with it. I'm so overly skinny that people still make fun of me at 67.

I try not to hold myself from going when the time comes. I think it is damaging. My problem is when I go to the theater for a great movie. Most movies are 2 1/2 hours plus coming attractions plus getting there early enough for a good seat.

If you do have herbal recommendations, as asked by skoll1975, please share. Also, pelvic exercises?
 

Firekin4

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Oct 10, 2015
I'm not sure what being skinny has to do with it either, the OP just mentioned they are, so perhaps there could be some connection. Petite people, petite organs. Sunflower seeds and ginseng both help, as do....well freaking pelvic exercises. I don't memorize all the stupid-sounding names they give exercises, I just call it butt-clenches and crotch-clenches. I think the "proper" term is Kegel exercises. Also try squatting more. Humans weren't designed to sit all the time, we spent most of our millennia of existence squatting on the ground to empty ourselves, and no longer doing so is weakening our pelvises, legs, and core.
 


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