My mom is in the hospital for over a week now, need advice please.
I know this is going to be a little long, but please don't write anything if you don't have anything helpful to say.
I am going through a tremendous amount of stress right now and I am begging for someone HELPFUL to come across this and help me in some way.
My mom complained of a severe headache about 2 weeks ago. She went to the emergency room, and they couldn't find anything wrong with her.
Then she asked to stay overnight at the hospital because the headache was really bad, and they let her.
Then, she started having these fevers reaching 103. Its been two weeks now, and she is still getting fevers off and on. She is on tylenol every 4 hours to bring the fever down.
She is at a university hospital she is 49 or 50 years old.
She also has been vomiting with her headache, for 2 weeks now.
Within the past 3 days she has a terrible cough.
The doctors have done a lot of tests and none of them know what is wrong with her.
Me and my siblings are very worried about her.
We don't know what to do. We can't sleep, we can't eat, we are depressed and scared.
My mom is a single parent, and my dad isn't around, and we want my mom home.
We want her to get better, we are SCARED she isn't going to get better.
I have been crying tonight, because I don't want anything worse to happen to my mom.
I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this except my siblings.
I don't trust the doctors and nurses, SOME of the nurses are very mean to my mom. One day they didn't let her have any food or water, it was very mean. I felt so bad for her. My heart is breaking for her right now, and I feel like there is nothing I can do.
I am NOT a doctor, and I can't figure out how to get her to stop having a fever, and stop coughing.
I just don't know what to do. I don't know.
P.s. today her breathing has been hard, she cant breathe right and she has shortness of breath
You are wise to not trust doctors. They are the third leading cause of death.
Your mom is fighting an infection, of that I am sure. I don't know if its bacterial, fungal, or viral, but the cough and fever are proof that she is under attack from an organism.
I am not a doctor and cannot diagnose or treat anyone, however, I can tell you what I would do if I was you. Your mom needs to supercharge her immune system right now before she catches some other superbug while in the hospital. I would start by going to a health food store and buying a good quality colloidal silver product. Talk to the manager/owner to make sure the product is of good quality. It is pure water with a very small amount of pure silver ions in it, at a strength of 10-20 parts per million.
Get your mom to drink an ounce or two a couple times per day starting as soon as possible. Colloidal silver has no taste, however, the silver ions will circulate in the blood attacking any organism that isn't supposed to be there.
It would be better to have the silver injested directly into the lungs via a nebulizer, however, I doubt the hospital staff would let you do that.
If you feel uncomfortable doing this, then I would suggest that as a family member, you can demand that the doctor give your mom high dose vitamin C drip by intravenous. They will most likely be stubborn about doing this but this will help your mom fight these organisms, of this I have no doubt, as long as she doesn't have a brain tumor, which would easily be seen with a CT scan or MRI.
Best wishes for your mom..
P.S. Arrowwind is the wisest nurse on this forum. Perhaps she could offer other possible tests/solutions.
Although I agree with Pinball, the simple fact is most docs will not give a vit c drip (unless you get lucky, it does not hurt to ask). Also, when my dad was in the hospital I made sure I was there all the time and here are a few things to consider:
They are feeding her shit, of that you can be certain. If you bring in freshly squeezed juice, it is alive, has enzymes and more vitamin C then that canned stuff they give her. Do that in the morning. If she does nothave bleeding issues, giver her a fish oil supplement a couple times a week to raise the omega 3 levels in her blood. Also, bring her in home cooked stuff with good ingredients and make sure she is moving. If she is bed ridden, try and get her to do arm exercises or any sort of movement possible. And for God sakes, QUESTION THE DOCS.
Shortness of breath: could be COPD or it could also be anxiety from the docs/nurses. Remember this: Those nurses and doctors are there for your mom. If they are mean (not giving food or water on a doctor's order is not being mean though), but if they are mean in other ways, get her transferred to another hospital. Also if there is some shortness of breath Coffee (if she is allowed) can help. Prayers going out to your mom.
Hi everyone, thank you so much for your replies. I really appreciate everyones help.
The big problem is, my mom doesn't tell us ("kids") anything that is happening!
She doesn't tell us what tests she has had done, she doesn't tell us if she has been diagnosed with anything, she just doesn't tell us anything.
She doesn't want to worry us, scare us, and she doesn't wanna traumatize my 13 year old sister.
So I don't know what exactly to do.
Everytime I want to visit her, she says "don't come today, I am sick"
I really wanna go visit her, but I am SCARED to.... you know what I mean? I'm so scared.
:/ Why doesn't she want us to see her? WHY?
Well next time I visit her, I'm going to give her all this stuff you guys are telling me to do, I plan on visiting her tomorrow while my little sister is in school, but I just hope she doesn't say "dont visit me" It's just scary. (
I want to see her healthy.
And I've been scared of doctors for a very long time, its hard for me to trust them, and I don't trust the medicines because they have a lot of other side effects. I think there is a natural remedy for everything, I just don't think the government wants us to know about it, because they make so much money off of us.
Doctors can handle trauma, bacterial infections, a few other types of infections and control pain and to an extent handle some endocrine disorders. But almost everything is drug treatment. It is best for you to visit her tomorrow or this evening with some freshly squeezed juice and some good food. (What state are you in?)
My first advice to you is to tell your mother that she needs to treat you more like an adult regarding her illness so that you can handle the stress better. Tell her it is causing you a lot of pain because she is not talking to you and that not knowing what is going on is far worse than knowing even if it is bad news. Hopefully she will have some sense can listen to you. Also remember that with all the pain and fever she may not be thinking very clearly.
Next, if you decide to give her colloidal silver and she can and will take it you will have to do it behind the backs of the nursing and other medical staff or they will hassel you about it. You will have to be there to give it all through the day or it will not be effective. You can pass it off as sips of water. I am recommending a higher dosage because I think things may be getting severe for her because of your report about her breathing.
I advise you to ask the medical staff if you can talk to a social worker. The conversations that you have with this social worker should be confidential between you and them and you should ask her/him if they will be. If they say yes, then thats how it should be. Tell them your concerns about her condition and try to illicit support from them in handling your mothers situation and your situation at home.
I suspect that your mom has a serious viral infection. They may be withholding food from her for some serious medical reasons. The nurses can only withold things because the doctor ordered it. They are not doing it to be mean... but some nurses can be grumpy so it may seem like they are doing it because they are mean. There must be a medical reason to withold food or fluids.. The vomiting is likely caused by her headaches which might be caused by swelling in the brain, if she has a virus there. I cannot say for sure. I am just guessing.
I would demand the doctors to give her IV vitamin c at the highest dosage possible. If they wont do it ask the social worker to help you get a court order and solicit help from and adult family memeber. Since they seem to have no treatment they should try everything they can. Vitamin C is known to kill every virus there is if it is given at high enough dosage by IV.
Keep in touch with us. We will support you as best we can.
Regardless of the cause of infection aim for the colloidal silver and IV vitamin C. If you want to know what is happening when you visit her look at the IV bags hanging on the poll. Especially look at the little ones as they will have the medicine printed on it. Large bags are usually just common fluids to keep her hydrated etc. If you can tell me the type of medicine she is on that will indicate what they are battling... you can look it up on the net.
If you are 24 years old you will likely be in control if she looses consciousness. I thought you might have been an underaged child.
That she text messages is a good sign. She is not quite as bad off as I thought ...
The irregular breathing that she is having, could she have aspirated one of those times when she vomited? That can cause pneumonia on top of everything else. If she is having a hard time breathing she should be on some kind of respiratory treatments, especially if she did aspirate.
Under the circumstances, I don't think the nurses are being "mean" to withhold the food. Your mom is getting whatever nourishment she needs right now from the IV. They want to be sure that the fungus is not being fed. So, don't try to sneak any food or candy to her. This will just feed the fungus.
Ugh I've had the worst day of my life today, so I went to visit my mom in the hospital, and it was a terrible sight :/
She had her mouth open with a breathing tube in there, she was hooked up to 8 different Iv's she was in the intensive care unit, she was sleeping, sedated. It was terrible, me and my sister instantly started crying, because we have never seen her or ANYONE in this kind of condition.
You guys I am so scared
I don't know what to do anymore, I just want to people able to talk to my mom, but the sedation won't allow her to talk back !!
He told me she has a fungus in her LUNG, :/
So thats why she is having breathing problems, I am so scared, I cant sleep at night, I cant eat.
My mom is such a beautiful, sweet lady, I can't see her like this, and I cant even talk to her, she won't talk back to us
I am having nightmares, I am going crazy, at the thought of her getting worse. I Just want her to get better.
I am scared, scared as heck. I am worried too. My mom has a low immune system because she has a different condition she takes medicine for, which has lowered her immune system, and now she has a fungus in her lung, oh Lord
I am so scared, I don't know who to talk to about this, and my little sister has no idea my mom is in this bad of shape.
I just miss my mom so much, and just want to talk to her. You dont know how important and how much you love someone until they are like this.
I wish I had someone there for us, but we don't. I am the oldest child, and I have to take care of everyone, I just pray my mom gets better. I just pray, and I hope whoever reads this will pray too.
She is a nice lady, and she is going through a lot.
I'm scared, so scared, to sleep, I can't stop tossing and turning, and picture my mom laying in the ICU