Sorry you're having such problems. Honestly, I rarely ever go to the doctors, and definitely haven't gone since the coronavirus. I use Kaiser Permanente, so when I did see a doctor, since I don't go often, it was usually a different one. I have no real health issues, so the normal 'check up' and blood work is about it. If one was being rude to me, I'd have to say something to bring it to their attention. Would be nice to use a holistic doctor, but I imaging they are very expensive and their 'prescriptions' would be too. I use a lot of herbs and vitamins at home, and they are very pricey.....but have avoided needing any prescription drugs, so it's okay.
The holistic doctors are all at least an hour and a half away from here and the better ones are three hours away. Of course it's mostly out of pocket - initial visit is usually $150 - $300 and then a smaller fee under that like $75 - $100 for followups. I would assume my insurance would cover most lab tests, but it's still more than I can reasonably afford out of pocket. Some supplements I'm sure would be affordable, but some other therapies - not so much. It would be a shame to take the time, go, and not be able to afford treatment. It's true a lot of high quality "organic" or "bioavailable" supplements are expensive...it's not uncommon to pay $40 or $50 for a one month supply
I'm too nervous to confront a doctor about being rude. A lot of them seem to feel that they are right because they're the one with the big, fancy degree and I'd rather not challenge. I'll play stupid, usually, and of course continue to be polite, but I can generally tell when they're trying to walk all over me and do not care so I'll simply cancel my appointment or not make another one and move onto a different provider.
This provider was openly in disagreement with our wishes and seemed extremely interested with pressing heavier medications without using lighter alternatives first. He asked about my husband's diet and we follow closest to a paleo diet and he explained low carb, low sugar, etc., but was still struggling with his health and the provider flat out shamed him saying he needs to stop eating all the high carb junk so he can lose some weight...he didn't even listen. He gave him a medication that was known to cause kidney problems without doing any bloodwork or anything to confirm he didn't have organ issues. My husband said he'll probably get the labs done because then they'll be available on his personal portal directly from the lab and then drop the provider. My husband struggles with his help, but the fat shaming among doctors is real. I didn't realize how many doctors were that way until I started going to my husband's doctor appointments.
I found a clinic that takes my insurance, not a holistic place, but I think it might be worth a try. I will see if I can get a call through tomorrow for an appointment. I've been having so many issues with pain over where my liver/gallbladder and now spleen are. Left shoulder pain is happening now, too. I'm so scare for my health. If I just know what this is then I think I'll feel a lot more informed. A lot of doctors shrug me off because I don't look ill and look healthy and fit.
I set up a free liver scan in another city and if I do have a liver problem they said that one of their providers would take me on and help me out. I hope they take my insurance, but the initial scan and reading is free so if I could at least determine the health of my liver that's one step to see if there's anything goig on there. I guess we have to pay for the gas to get there, but that's more minimal than paying for a whole fancy scan. That's later in December, though, kind of hope it comes soon.
Ideally, I wouldn't want to even step foot in a doctor's office during the pandemic and because it's flu season on top of that, I don't want to be getting sick. Normally if I don't feel ill, I'll avoid the doctor at all costs lol. There may be times where I feel I should go and just be sure things are okay, but otherwise nah. Generally doctors are a last resort for me.
